Symphony of a Heartbeat

               On this Thanksgiving Eve, I am thankful for the life that is growing inside me…a miraculous gift from God of which I still can’t quite grasp the reality.  Many people have asked me “what did you do differently this time?”  Well, that can turn into quite a long answer.  We changed several things this summer and tried them for a few months.  I’m fairly convinced that it probably wasn’t just one of them that worked, but rather the combination of all the instruments into a symphony of success (yep, that’s the music teacher coming out in me).  It was a completely different mix of instruments than what worked for us in 2010 when we got pregnant, but after continuing to trust that something would eventually work again we finally found our recipe for success.  So here goes…everything that we tried on me (because, remember, every time Steve was tested he was good) in the few months leading up to the glorious positive pregnancy test we got 2 ½ months ago:

1. March 2012 – Had a series of appointments with a chiropractor (and I’m so awesome that I have forgotten his name…whoops) that my mom’s friend recommended.  This chiropractor was not your average chiropractor, but someone who is known to help patients through the unique avenue of frequency testing in addition to his alignment help.  He found that my alignment was off and putting a lot of pressure on my reproductive organs so he fixed my alignment and checked for a few weeks to make sure it was holding.  He also said that I had parasites in my ovaries and got rid of them with what I can only think to call frequency therapy...kind of an energy thing.  Believe in it or not, it couldn’t have hurt.

2. April 2012 – Recommitted myself to eating on the Kaufmann plan.  While this has been my preferred method of eating for years to help with different issues and just for overall health, I (like everyone else) would go through funks where I would say “screw it” and eat whatever I wanted.  I reminded myself that this was an important part of my journey to motherhood so I rededicated myself to cleaning up my diet.

3. May 2012 – Increased my clomid dose at my OBGYN’s recommendation from 50 mg to 100 mg.

4. May 2012 – Changed the enzymes and supplements I took based on my mom’s recommendation (read more about her here).  She learned about some new protocols and was convinced that my liver was toxic which was not allowing my body to absorb all the supplements I was taking to help with my fertility.  My mom said to give her 60-90 days for the new enzymes to make a difference...3 months later I was pregnant so maybe she was right :).  I also started wearing custom orthotic shoe inserts regularly at the suggestion of my mom to help with my alignment and began taking a Vitamin D supplement (I talked about that here).

5. Continued acupuncture.  My acupuncturist specializes in helping people with fertility issues (whether they have a hard time getting pregnant or a hard time holding on to pregnancies) and continues to attend ongoing seminars to learn more about new ways to help those with fertility issues.

6. Continued tracking my BBT and using ovulation predictors to make sure we were timing things correctly.

7. Continued praying like crazy!  You can never discount the power of prayer – it all happens in God’s timing and I know that He hears our prayers when we share the desires of our heart.

               So, I guess when you combine all those different things it was our recipe for success...our symphony of a heartbeat :).  There are so many issues women and men can face on the road to parenthood that there is no one recipe for success that will work for everyone; however, if you are trying to become a mommy or daddy I strongly encourage you to seek out more information about at least one of the things I tried.  You never know what may or may not work for you until you try. 

Dreams really do come true

                I've been trying to think of the best way to share this news for weeks, but I'm fairly convinced there is no perfect or right way so here goes: I'M PREGNANT.  Words cannot describe the excitement that I have begun to feel as the last several weeks have passed, and yet that joy has always been balanced with the thought "is this for real?"  Well, I'm finally starting to believe myself that it is real so it's time to spread the word that Steve and I are expecting our miracle!  13 1/2 weeks along and all signs seem good so far. 
                As I began to share the news recently with friends who I've connected with due to our shared experiences of infertility and miscarriage, I was continually greeted with excitement and enthusiasm at the prospect of our story shifting from a bumpy journey into hope.  But I know that for some of you it is still hard to hear the news (it always was for me no matter how happy I was for my friends).  With that in mind, I don't want to go crazy and overwhelm you in this one post...I simply say thank you for your support through my blogging journey thus far.  Several people have asked me two questions as I have shared the news: what made the difference in you finally being able to get pregnant and what are you going to do with the blog?  I plan on answering those questions in posts to come soon, but today I'm thankful for your prayers for me and my husband.  I still can't quite comprehend it myself, but I am so grateful that God has allowed me to be where I am right here - right now - in this moment of life...and expecting a baby :).

Venturing into charted territory

            I’m sure most of you have heard of natural family planning: a woman charts her basal body temperatures (BBT) to figure out her most fertile time frame each cycle and then takes precautions during that time to avoid getting pregnant. Well, if you’re trying to conceive I suggest you follow the same procedures…you know, without the avoiding getting pregnant part ;). If you’ve never tracked your BBT before, it’s fairly simple and very effective in helping a woman who has pretty normal cycles figure out her fertile window. It can also help your doctor know if something isn't quite working right when your temps seem "out of whack."  The procedure is as follows:

1. Take your temperature with a high quality thermometer as soon as you wake up in the morning. Don’t go cheap on this…it is extremely important that the thermometer is accurate to the 0.1 of a degree.

2. Record your temps on a chart/graph each cycle until you notice a pattern. Your temps will be lower the first half of your cycle then they will raise and stay elevated post-ovulation. Once you establish a few months of temps, you can see where your temperature typically raises and then establish your fertile window.

Here's an example of a pretty decent chart of mine...notice that after day 16 (when I ovulated), the temps began to rise and then settled in at a higher baseline than earlier in the cycle.

And here's an example of a not-so-decent chart of mine...notice how the temps seem to lack consistency and they stayed pretty high for a lot of the first half of my cycle.  This, unfortunately, has not been unusual for me which was an indication that things weren't quite on the right track.

 

              I started tracking my BBT app. 2 ½ years ago and have done so (with the exception of a few days) every morning since. Yes, sometimes it’s a pain, but a baby is worth it. I also suggest using ovulation predictor kits (OPKs…those lovely pee sticks all the ladies are dying to use) to help you verify when you’re about to ovulate. My procedure since I started tracking my BBT was to start using the OPKs each cycle 4-6 days before I thought I was going to ovulate to verify when ovulation was occurring so the hubs and I could feel a bit more confident that we caught the fertile window each month.  I should probably own stock in Clearblue by now with as many of those OPKs that I bought over the last few years ;).

              And one more thing before I sign off today - did you know “there’s an app for that” if you have an iPhone? Actually, there are several apps that make it easy to record your temps and chart your ovulation. I’ve used a couple but have found that I like one called iPeriod the most because it can export the information via email if I need to print it and it shows you a line graph with just a turn of the phone (hence the charts above).  Good luck charting!