I
recently had dinner with a friend that led into a conversation I wasn't
expecting (I'll call her X to make this retelling easier). X shared with me her total frustration about
another dinner we were at a few weeks prior with a group of people and wanted
to apologize to me for comments made by the others. I can assure you that X did not make any
comments at our group dinner that she needed to apologize for, but she felt
like the others who dined with us on that particular occasion were being
insensitive about my fertility situation...and to be honest, so did I but often
times it's hard to say something. I know
people mean well, but sometimes they just don't realize that what they are
saying is hurtful or, at the very least, not at all helpful. And that goes for people struggling with
fertility or any other issue out there. But
X's kind thoughts when we got together again (just the two of us) was a
wonderful reminder of the blessing of friends.
No one is perfect and everyone is going to do something that hurts
someone else's feelings sometime, but if you surround yourself with good people
you will always have someone there to help pick you up when you are down. So don't ever forget that your friends are a
gift...and always try to return that gift to them :).
Thought #2: Students sure can make you feel awkward
sometimes.
I can't
tell you how many times in the last few years students of mine have asked if I
have any kids yet. Innocent enough
question, but when I say no it has led down two different paths: 1. they quit
talking about it because their curiosity has been fulfilled OR 2. they begin to
tell me why they think I should have kids.
In light of my journey thus far, I probably don't need to elaborate on
how awkward I feel standing there listening to a 10 year old who chooses to go
down path #2...
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